Q&A - My partner doesn't understand me | Explaining what Sieveille is | Advice on becoming a solopreneur | A way forward from feeling disconnected
At the beginning of the week I asked The Dominion for guidance on what topic this weeks episode could cover. I'm feeling tired and lacking a little in momentum currently, and I need a break (that sweet holiday is booked in August).
They said to make it flexible... how about a Q&A... Ask Me Anything.
This could be interesting!!
So on Instastories, I invited you to send me what's on your mind and I received LOTS of topics. I chose the four questions that I felt would most resonate with you, my dear audience and that I felt I was equipped to give both a Spiritual and Practical response to.
All questions were worthy of their own episode, and so I channelled through the most important message that wanted to be shared on each topic.
Here's a peek at those questions:
1. My partner doesn't understand me, our conversations often end up in arguments and that make me really anxious. Do you have any advice?
(Sam shares the one effective thing that most humans do the opposite to)
2. What is the Sieveille (CVL) that you talk about?
(Embodying this unique brand/frequency of light for the new earth is just like learning to do somersaults well enough to become an gold medal olympic gymnast)
3. I feel disconnected from myself a lot and I feel lost on how to move forward in my life, what tips do you have ?
(This really speaks to the quote "observe, don't absorb")
4. Any advice for those of us taking the leap to set up coaching businesses, solo?
(The biggest lesson to learn, and most business owners never learn because the books and the courses and the coaches don't tell you because they have no idea about it, is this golden rule that you MUST focus on because it will definitely make your business more successful)
Grab your notepad and a pen, pull up a chair and enjoy the show.
Blessings
Sam ♡
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Episode Transcript
Hey, beautiful souls. Welcome to this week's podcast episode, it's as always, amazingly beautiful to have your energy here with me today. And what a beautiful day. It is here in Queensland on the Sunshine Coast. It's cool, and it's very sunny, and it's very windy. So there's a lot of movement in the air today. This week's podcast episode is a q&a episode. When I tuned in, earlier on in the week, I really had no kind of inkling of an idea what to talk about this week. I'm feeling pretty tired to be honest. And I'm really looking forward to having a week off in August. And part of me is kind of already starting to slow down.
So I said to The Dominion, what should this week's podcast be about? They said, keep it flexible. How about doing the q&a? I thought Yes, that's a great idea. Something free flowing, that, hopefully, is going to be supportive for you.
Because I put a request out for questions on Instagram the other day, and I had a few requests on topics coming back. So thank you to you if you were one of those souls that bravely commented (because I know you know, sometimes we don't want to ask the questions for fear, perhaps of what the responses might be, maybe there's some self doubt or, you know, maybe lack of confidence). So if you put in a question for a an answer that I can share with you, then I'm just humbled and blessed that you did that. So thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
So I want to just jump straight into the q&a today. And really just land ourselves right into it. Now I had, as I say quite a few questions. And I have reflected on them all and felt into them. And I've come up with four of those questions that I'm going to answer and offer some support and advice. I say advice... guidance on I guess, because you are your own sovereign being and you have free will and choice as to whether you feel into the truth of what I share or not. And it's perfectly okay. Anyway, either way.
So yes, I'm going to dive straight in with the first question and then offer up the response. I'm just going to spray some higher heart vibrational spray, as I remind myself of these questions and bring my energy into that space, the higher heart vibrational essence is so so beautiful, it really does come into and connect into the soul of your being the higher heart of your being.
I'll leave a link to that spray in the show notes as well.
So I just sprayed that. And as I'm pausing for a moment before I launch into the first question, it's creating this sensation in my body and I can feel it moving through my system. So if you are feeling it on some level and you're sensitive and you can feel that that's beautiful. In the same way that if you can't feel it or you're not feeling anything, any sensation in the body just this is okay.
This is some love, love from me to you, as I just connect and align with these questions.
So without further ado, let's start with the first question.
Oh that's what I was going to say. So my intention for answering the questions is to align with a spiritual response as well as a practical response. Even when I was selecting the questions, I was feeding into the responses. It was asking me to kind of go back into my own memory bank, my own experiences in order to live to deliver the responses. And so it's ignited some energies within me that wanted to be seen and shifted as well. And this is the beauty of these podcast episodes is that they hold an energetic infusion, an energetic transmission, that your body way beyond your five senses is able to pick up and you will, you know. The human part of you doesn't necessarily get what's going on here. But the energetic part of you will be in receiving and transmitting and transmuting mode. So, just be open and be open to grace, open to magic, as you listen to this episode.
Okay, okay. Okay, all right. So I'm going to feel in, and feeling into The Dominions presence here today. for their support, because no doubt they will give me some input as well as we channel this information through. So let's see what they say as well.
Question No. 1
My partner doesn't understand me, our conversations often end up in arguments and that makes me really anxious. Do you have any advice?
Well, first of all, feeling into that question, I'm also feeling into the soul that asked me this question. And as I respond, if you are listening to this podcast episode, then you will know exactly know this is for you, in particular, but this also for anybody that also finds themself in this position.
So I too, am a person that has experienced this before for myself in relationship as well. What we find quite often when we're in relationship with another is that if we are not getting our needs met, i.e. "I need to be understood", what tends to happen is a form of protection is the reaction. And a form of support for self is we can kind of repel and push away or push others away, or pull ourselves away from that experience. And when we're feeling anxious, and when anxiety comes into that, then we know that the body the the nervous system is on high alert. So we will, by nature, our human nature is to want to find a place where we can come back to feeling comfortable again. And that often is where we will create separation and division between ourselves and the other person. I think also, with respect to this, it's useful to understand the pattern that you're in, that happens as a result of that situation that you're in at that point in time. Yet, that pattern has probably been running for quite a while, obviously, depending how on how long you've been together with that person. Now, we might call it being stuck in a rut, but there is a pattern. And those patterns have been adopted as a consequence of what you have observed and how you have felt in the past. And that might have been with a similar situation, similar person or same situation, same person. Now for sure, there'll be a past life aspect to this too, and then also be a familial, you know, family related perspective on this as well.
Let me give you an example. We often model our behaviours, our defence system, our way of looking after ourselves based on our caregivers, parents, because we've watched how they move through life. So we'll tend to automatically do the same thing as well, in relation to the situation that we're in, you know. How often have you heard your partner say to you, oh, "you sound just like your mother".
If you hear that, if you've heard that in the past, then you'll know what I mean about this, we are we can quite often find ourselves in a situation and we are operating in a certain way that is subconscious. It's also highly automated, because that's what we've always done. And that's what we feel is to be right and true. The thing with that is that we know on a deeper level that it's not our truth, because we're feeling how we're feeling.
You know, we're feeling anxious, we're feeling the rub, around that situation, we're feeling the negative energies around the fact that we're not getting our needs met, we're not owning and living fully out truth. And so we'll do all we can to make that happen. So I guess, you know, no matter what the current pattern is, that current pattern can be broken, it can be shifted, it can be changed at will.
Whatever that pattern is, this is really a reminder that you are a powerful being with choices at every moment. And so if you break the pattern of this is "how I would normally behave in this situation". Or "this is how I would normally think, in this kind of situation", you're actually beginning to consciously break the energetic pattern as well.
So yes, you don't want to end up in an argument. Ultimately, you just want somebody to be able to understand, listen to you, hear you, hold you, see you. And we've all been in unsure and uncertain sharing this, I'm sure that you're all with me on this, we've all been in conscious relationships, less conscious relationships, unconscious relationships, depending on who we're with.
But we chose these people, they chose us, we had a contract to come into this life, and live our lives and have the discussions and have the relationships we have, so that our soul may learn from the experience in order for us to grow and evolve. So it's all you know, divinely chosen, soul chosen.
But also recognising that us humans, the greatest gift we have is our own free will and choice. There are a lot of things I can offer up here in terms of advice and tips. So really just keeping it as top line as I can. When we use the words, "he doesn't understand me", from a soul perspective, that statement, that person is helping you to use the words “he doesn't understand me”, it’s a mirror. It's a projection of that which is within you. So this situation is calling you to say to yourself, "how can I understand more about myself better".
Because if I'm saying that somebody doesn't understand me, it's also saying that I am not fully understanding myself. And when we talk about understanding ourselves better, it's like we are in denial of the truth of who we really are. So on some level, there is a misalignment and misjudgment around the acceptance of self. Because if we want somebody to understand and accept us, we need to understand and accept self beforehand. That has to come from within first in order for it to be seen in our reality on the outside. This again, as I say it's an opportunity for growth because your soul has chosen to have these experiences with these people, so that it can experience it, learn from it and grow from it. And you know, as I said, there is a past life aspect to this as well. And that you will be, you know, moving through bringing the energy through from previous previous lives.
Now, let's go back to what I shared about repelling and pulling away from a situation. It is in these times, where we need to choose differently. And choosing differently could mean doing the complete opposite to what we would normally do. So if we are repelling somebody creating distance between ourselves and somebody else through that misunderstanding is like, "Oh, God, I need to protect myself, they don't get it, they don't get me", and we want to go away and hide, we should actually do the opposite, which is to lean in, to lean in and invite the other person to lean in with us.
Really get into your being this sense of mirroring that goes on in relationships, we get that, you know. There's two sides of the coin with that, there's people that say, "those two people have morphed into each other, you know, wearing the same clothes, same jerseys" Where you kind of get a bit codependent, you know, that's an aspect of this as well. But let's bring it back to this being me being misunderstood. You can actually lean in to wanting to discover or choosing to discover more about why there is this misunderstanding. That's one way of doing it.
Now, I know that it can create some stalemate when we feel like we're misunderstood. Because it's that cycle of events "He doesn't understand me, she doesn't understand him and so on and off we go.
However, there are some practical tools and examples here that you can take with you and and work on.
When we want to start a conversation about feeling misunderstood, sometimes we don't feel brave enough to make that step. Sometimes there's some lack some, some lack of doubt, some self doubt that is creeping in, we might put the brakes on and decide that that's probably not a good thing to do, to try and stir the honeypot a bit more.
But it's in those times when you need to do the self reflection and do the work and remind yourself, re-remember of the Divine sovereign, fully deserving fully worthy you. So that you are brave enough to approach the situation differently.
Once you're able to overcome that once, and see the the effect of that in your reality, that gives you more confidence to then lean in even more. I've got various tools as I say, if you're interested in that, the practical things that you can do in order to lean in and and start a brand new conversation, start a brand new communication with your partner around getting your needs met, and then getting their needs met, then do reach out.
I know myself in the past where I've felt so much fear around being seen and heard, because I felt like I didn't deserve what I felt I needed. And I wasn't confident that if I shared what I needed, it would be heard, seen and accepted. And so I had so many stories going on in my in my head as to why I wasn't worthy of sharing what I needed to share and getting the response that I felt I needed to come back to me. And so that's it, you can see how we can kind of get really tied up in our own stories.
It's so important to understand that you are this magnificent being of love, and that you are worthy of your own truth. You are worthy of getting your needs met. You are worthy of being understood, but you are also worthy of the knowing that you are a powerful co creator and a powerful communicator and that the stories, subconscious beliefs, patterns, energies that are sitting in your field are merely simply obstacles to getting what you need. And they are not fixed because energy isn't fixed. It's never fixed, it's always movable.
And so if you can work on your self confidence, work on the fact that you are worthy of getting your needs met, or want to be understood, and banish that self doubt, you can receive everything you need, because as you shine in your truth, so does everybody else, including that person that is standing in front of you.
So I have a beautiful self confidence and banish doubt, light immersion on my website that will shift your energy field from fear, from doubt, to confidence and empowerment, this is a really good starting point, because it will help you to balance your energy so that you can think more neutrally and come from a place of self love and love for self and other which shines your light, which means that you're going to get more of a positive response.
I'll put that link in the show notes above. Ultimately, you are in control, you are in control of your choices. And just because you chose one way before, doesn't mean you can't choose another way at this time or at a future time. It is in the knowing that you are worthy of being understood. Truly, truly, truly, which can only come with from within, it can only come from doing the work within. Once you know your confidence, your assertiveness if you like, your empowered place, your empowered state, it shines out, which then becomes an attraction point for that person to understand you as you receive that from them too.
So do a 180 on your choices. Whatever you were choosing before choose differently and lean in. Feel free to download the immersion and get in touch if you would like further support. Thank you so much for that question.
Question No. 2
What is Sieveille (CVL)? that you talk about?
This question was asked of me a few times, this is a pretty exciting one for me, because this is a brand new, universal energy of our time. It is a light frequency and it reconnects you to your innermost knowing. Sieveille is the tool, the mechanism, the energetic frequency that allows, aligns you to your highest self and to the blueprint of your soul. The purpose of it is to help you to align your physical body.. i.e. your human body, to your highest self to your soul, for your highest good, for your highest potential.
It is a tool to help you to be in your highest divine alignment. Bearing in mind that we are all a frequency, we all vibrate at our own unique frequency so Sieveille, well, as it's introduced will speak to the vibration of your own individual body. It creates this rapid change and shift but it integrates quite smoothly and quickly. What I've noticed with its incorporation into my body, but then as I share that out with others. It's cleverly arranges itself in the body in a way where it helps you to transmute the stories the old beliefs the subconscious imprints from life. Lifetimes and lifetimes and lifetimes, and it asks you to be an active participant.
Yes, we can sit here, we can you know listen to or watch a video. But during that process, its going to help you to focus your mind, your efforts towards you healing those specific beliefs and patterns that block your change, the change within you for better. It is really helpful in you discovering your inner needs, it really helps you to support you to track your improvement over time. Every time you receive the frequency of Sieveille it builds on, it grows, it develops, it works with your energetic field and your mind isn't even needed.
It's works outside of your conscious mind. So your conscious mind can't block the transmission coming through. It is an energy of helping you to see what is possible and what else is possible for you. It's not going to eradicate any challenges in your life because obviously your soul is here to learn from the challenges so it can overcome. So, what it will do is it will help you to see multiple perspectives, alternative perspectives. So then you have access to choosing, making choices within that challenge with more options and with greater capacity. So Sieveille opens the door to your energetic journeying, and you get to choose whether or not you want to walk through the door and journey on with it.
So I first started my energy healing energy practitioner journey as a reflexologist and then a Reiki Master. I'm also attuned to the energy of Archangel magnetron. So, I know what those energetic frequencies feel like and how Sieveille compares. Sieveille has been introduced to me by The Dominion. It's taken months and months and months, probably years actually, for my body to be prepared to hold this frequencies so that I can work with you, work with it for you. So, I channel through this healing energies and that comes either through my hands (hands on healing like traditional Reiki for example), it can come through me in a kind of light language so I can feel my body moving in a way, like my body is drawing symbols. Or it can come through my hand gestures. Light language, it's a soul code, so it speaks to your soul rather than your physical body as an energetic tool.
What does it do? It helps you to transmute helps you to transcend physical, emotional nor mental, experiential, situational experiences, blocks. Transmuting that into compassion, into love, self worth empowerment, and it's transcending it, transmuting whatever is standing in the way of those energies, those emotions, because those high, lovely emotions are already within you.
You are a sovereign being, you are a child of the universe, you are source energy. So all of those elements, those emotions are already within you. Coming into your being with this beautiful energy to remind you, to re-teach you that love, forgiveness, soul journeying, soul progression, life's challenges, gifts are all part of you creating your best life. your most joyful life.
And ultimately, you are here to enjoy, to have fun, to be the love that you already are. So Sieveille, which is an absolute gift for us all, you know, we can all use this beautiful energy through Spirit through the universe connecting in. It is speaking to self on an energetic level in your energetic field. It is speaking to you in limitless ways. And it helps you to get out of your own way.
Although you're gonna get out of your own way any way, because this beautiful energy is going to shift you, without you even being conscious of it. This will happen subtly at times, often you know, we can miss the subtle changes in our lives. But often, it's the subtle things that come through as a result of doing the work, that influence the biggest changes in life, for sure, for sure.
But it's like, you know, we've all heard, you've heard about law of attraction. And when you get bogged down on the mental side of that, it's like, oh, "I've got to be a certain way, or I've got to do things a certain way, I've got to really work hard to make this happen". This is the old narrative. But actually, Seiveille, it teaches us to embrace the resistance, even if the resistance in the body can't really be explained, you know, you can't put your finger on why you're feeling the resistance.
However, this is a gift, this is a present from source, because it helps you to transcend that which is in the way. It also helps you to establish a way of working with resistance until you begin to learn about it, which then creates an improvement in your life, which means that you then manifest more.
Sieveille doesn't follow a specific pathway, is not a specific criteria or agenda. It's not a specific formula. It is about allowing Sieveille in you, within you, to be present, and of you, to move you from feeling incapable, fearful, to empowered and in full ownership and sovereignty of yourself. So it's channeled through, your body receives it on a frequency that your body understands.
Again, this is another reason why it's so useful to really listen to the transmissions or light transmissions that you'll receive from me if you choose to invite Sieveille into your life, the more you listen, the more it builds and your frequency changes, you receive something different. That affects, responds to a different aspect of you, a perception of who you are, and who you feel you are in this life, to bring you closer towards your truth. It's dynamic, it interacts with your energetic field, in each and every moment. These frequencies... the more you listen, the more you repeat the listening, or the viewing. The light affects you differently. And as it affects you differently, your choices change, you progress through your choice journey. And you align with your most empowered self.
So it's a beautiful, just a privilege humbling and honouring to be able to receive this light, to be reminded of my past life journey as a lightwkrker, healer. My previous life journeying that I had, I was able to work with light in this way. And so it's a privilege at this time to be in a position where I have done enough of my work (and I still continue to journey through my work) so that I am able to remember just how much power is in this light. And then I can support you to use it for yourself for your own healing, physical, mental, emotional, situational, healing.
It is a privilege, it is a blessing and I'm really, really, really grateful.
I will put a link in the show notes above to a little sample of Sieveille, if this really speaks to you. There is a wider story about it, about my journey with with The Dominion and how I was introduced to it. And it's another whole podcast episode that is one for another time.
Anyway, I hope you found that this touched you, within your heart, within your soul, and reminds you of the connectedness that you are to the whole of humanity, to source, the universe, and all that is, so thank you for that question. Thank you for allowing me to share with you what is currently my deepest passion, and I'm sure will stay with me for the rest of this incarnation anyway. And I look forward to guiding you through with Sieveille should you choose to travel with me.
Question No.3
Do you have any advice for those of us taking the leap to setting up our coaching businesses, solo?
This question is so so awesome, because it took me back down through memory Lane, thinking about that point in time when you're at a crossroads. Generally you're employed, and you're in a job that you either think is okay, and it's paying you the wage. And it's there's a relatively good amount of comfort there. You're used to it, you've got the expertise, you have the security, so on and so forth. And then you wake up one morning, and you're like, I just know that I don't want to do this anymore. And it's at that point where quite often you recognise all the things that you don't want to be doing. The commute, the sitting in the office, whatever it might be.
But there is this one question, and it's "What am I actually going to do now? What can I put my skills and talents to? What is it going to be? Can I make enough money that's going to cover my bills? Can I actually discipline myself? How do I even start? Who do I get advice from?"
What's the first step out of all of those questions? I so remember it well.
I started my solopreneur journey back in 2013. So it's a little while ago now but anyway, let me ask the question.
First off from a spiritual perspective, there is one piece of what I consider to be the biggest advice I can give you at this point. That is to "trust yourself".
Let's come back to sovereignty, come back to self responsibility, come back to backing yourself. It's that you must love, trust and have faith in yourself. Of course, you need to sit down and do the planning, decide exactly what you're going to be doing, and how you're going to implement that and the steps that need to happen. As you go through that journey, you're still going to need to have a lot of trust and a lot of faith in yourself, because nobody's gonna have the level of trust and faith in you that you're going to need for yourself.
We can try and go externally and get the support. And people may say, "Oh, you know, that's fantastic. Yes, you should go and do this, yes, you should go and do that". But ultimately, they're not actually doing the thing. They're not waking up in the morning and deciding whether they're going to invest their money in a website, or whether they're going to invest their money in some tools and equipment, whatever it is. All of those big decisions that need to be made, they're not ever going to be involved in that. And so you will have situations where people will support you and give you advice. And there will be people that will not want you to do what you potentially are planning to do. Let's just take coaching businesses as a prime example here in the question, because they won't want you to bring up any triggers, failures, guilt, shame, blame or anything, uncertainty fear in them, you will be showing them the mirror that says to themselves "you couldn't do this, so therefore, you can't do this either".
So it's really, really, really important to continue to do your self care work, to do your clearing. Because like nothing else, going out in business, on your own setting up on your own, you are going to be in the face of and be met with lots of emotional challenges, lots of triggers, that are going to test you. So it's so important to stay centred, aligned and balanced. And by all means, listen to people's advice if they are somebody that you care about, or is somebody that is more successful than you, or is somebody in your industry that you know has got going and they can give you their advice, pitfalls, etc, around what happened to them so you don't make the same. I want don't want to say failures, because it's not, but you don't need to learn lessons that they've learned for themselves already.
So from a spiritual perspective, absolutely. Back yourself because you can do it, you deserve it. The biggest challenge that I've personally found is that part of my personality is very good with ideas. And I've read good ideas person, and I'm very good at getting things off the ground. I'm not so good at putting as much attention and focus into those projects, when they're six months, 12 months, three years down the line, I'm a kind of "moved on to the next thing". So you need a certain amount of discipline, depending on your personality, of course.
But what we can do is, we can set ourselves up with certain expectations. And when those expectations aren't met, to whatever degree, we always receive hiccups, tests from the universe.
If things don't quite work out, then we can talk ourselves out of our magnificence, out of our own magic, out of our own skills and talents. And we can move into that that story, into that state of comparison with other people. You know, "they do it and they're so much better than me, so therefore I can't do it". So you do need to have a very strong foundation, a soul connection foundation for yourself to love and trust yourself and have faith.
And then second to that, you know, it is beneficial to have like minded people around you that are successful. But it's also useful to be very discerning about who those people are. Because you can get quite carried away with other people's thoughts and beliefs. And of course, their perspectives are rooted in their own fears and challenges. And so they are going to project things onto you that aren't actually yours. There is so much wonderful stuff about setting up your own business going solo. And the honeymoon period is amazing. And the consistency is also amazing. But the way to achieve consistency and discipline and to stay aligned is to only listen to yourself. Number one, only listen to yourself, don't listen to anybody else. I know I've been there, I've worn the T-shirt I, you know, I have paid for coaching and marketing services. And you know, paid for the advice of really, really good people, good people that have integrity, that wanted the best for me, but they also wanted the best for themselves. And I'm not saying that they didn't get value, and I absolutely did get value. Yet I did recognise through it, you know, just having far more awareness of me and my energy field, where I was probably not trusting myself, and trusting the words and opinions of others over myself.
And recognising that when I did that, I became disconnected to an extent, I became disconnected with the joy, disconnected with my intentions, disconnected with my own progress or where my vision was going. Self doubt crept in. Even though, I've also learned that it's good to have a vision, but to enjoy the journey and not to try and get to the destination. Because the destination will shift. And your purpose for being, the mission that you're going to go on is going to move, it will adapt as you grow, learn and adapt.
So I hope that was useful from a kind of spiritual perspective. But I suppose there's some practical advice in that as well. So yeah, I've loaded that one up there. There was also another thing that is really, really, really, really important. This isn't quite so challenging. When when you know what your mission is, when you know what your soul mission is, you know what you're here to do, you know what your gifts and talents are and you really, really get behind your passion. And you have faith and you have trust, the universe supports you, the universe is always supporting you. When you come out of alignment, which undoubtedly you will wobble, it sends you tests to make sure that you're either going to stay out of alignment or you're going to get back in alignment, just one of the two things.
However, if you're going to succeed in business, ultimately, you really, really, really want to know who it is that you are trying to help, who you are trying to serve. And so my practical head here now, from a business perspective, is to fully understand who it is you're trying to help. And what it is they're trying to overcome. What result is it that they want to achieve? I experienced this, I tripped myself up on this. I see it time and time again, is that businesses, solopreneurs, people who've just started out in business for themselves, they'll talk all about their products, their services, their treatments, their therapies, their memberships, their whatever, tell you about all the great features and benefits, but they don't talk about deliver the outcome, they don't share with you what happens as a result of going through the process. They don't share necessarily, or don't put as much impetus and focus on it as they should, around what the outcome is.
People want to find a solution to their problem. They don't want to know what the hoops are that they're going to have to jump through. They only want to know that their pain, or their trouble or their issues are going to be alleviated or resolved.
So be very clear on who you're doing this for, and what the result is that they can expect from working with you. Make that front left and centre of your intention every day. And then you will find that people will be attracted to your results, the results of others. Because you'll be fulfilling a need. You're not giving them a product or service, you're actually fulfilling a need. You're fulfilling an outcome that they need. This is really fundamental. And it's something that isn't taught widely, but it will make all the difference to your progress by focusing on the outcomes, and the successes that can be achieved when you solve a problem or solve a pain.
So thank you so much for that question. That was awesome. I got to just even recap on my own my business here. And yeah, just enjoying and appreciating the the opportunity to share, but also sending you so much love for all of those people that are that are going on this journey, because it is an incredible journey. And it's so so so, so satisfying. It's like nothing else on earth to be able to play your own game, run your own race and all those other beautiful cliches that we hear. So thank you. Thank you for that question.
Now, the last question, for this week's episode, is,
I feel disconnected from myself a lot. And I feel lost on how to move forward in my life. What tips do you have?
So thank you for this question. So for me, I feel that disconnection comes when I'm looking externally to myself. So when I am sitting with a dilemma, and I'm considering my next move. My next move generally is not the right move for me, if I am going externally, to try and solve the problem, or to try and get the answer that I'm calling in from myself. So in order to reconnect with myself, I need to go within, to take time to be present with myself, give myself room, give myself space to go within. Disconnection happens when we get carried away with life, we get carried away with the flow of life, from the perspective of other people, you know. We see it on social media, we see it on the internet, we see it in politics, we see it with groups of people who have a strong opinion that have a belief that causes us to question our stance, what is our position with respect to this. And so we will either move towards that opinion, flow that tribe or we will repel against it and stand in our own space.
Of course, all of those experiences then create challenges within us because we either learn to love our empowered state, and be very centred and balanced and practice being centred and balanced. No matter what's going on outside. That is true connection, that is becoming connected. And when we can do that more often than not, then that is really being in true alignment, but we can get into this this place where we'll judge ourselves, because we are thinking differently, behaving differently, showing up differently to other people, and then we'll give our respect, pay our respects over to someone else, to an external source over self, and will judge ourselves in relation to that person.
That leads us to feeling lost, it leads us to feeling disconnected. It leads us to feeling like we're walking in fog because our judgment is clouded, we can't see too far ahead of us. What's actually happening is when we are going externally, we're going without, instead of trusting within, we are actually fighting against our true nature.
And we're in these times now, most certainly since I've been doing healing work, but I think about from 2020 onwards to be honest with you, since so much has changed in the world in this time,that it's so important now to be the individual, and to take ownership and responsibility of self and to recognize that whoever you are, all the gifts, you've have all the knowledge you have, everything that you've ever achieved in your life, it all has intrinsic value. And that intrinsic value is exactly the same, not quite as good as but exactly the same as the intrinsic love, compassion value worth that you already are.
And so literally, you are matching up your external world, everything that you've experienced in this life, to your internal world, creating harmony, that has such a strong, strong, strong, strong energy, that helps you to then create more strength, more power, more empowerment within, which then drives you towards, even more toward your truth. And it's only natural that that you will get disconnected at times. Because we are human beings that live off a program. And so if the program in the mind, the subconscious, is a program that is putting the emphasis on external people, places things, to bring joy, to bring satisfaction, to bring money, to bring security, to bring safety, to bring everything from the outside to the inside, then that is not a five minute thing that you can overcome.
You can't overcome it overnight, but you can overcome it step by step through awareness. Awareness is the number one spiritual, 'self' based tool, that supportive tool that is going to help you to make new choices, to choose differently. So that you move from feeling lost to "ah, actually, I understand this. I think I've got this. I don't necessarily understand what it is at the moment, but within me, if I'm receiving this in me and that does feel good" "Does this decision feel good? Does it not feel good? Yes, it feels good. Awesome. That's me being aligned. That's actually given me clarity". Because it feels good within. It's a decision, a choice that I've made that feels good with from within. And that starts you on the journey to being more often in alignment and in connection with yourself.
So I guess the question, to always ask, or to ask on a daily basis, to stop and be in the moment of, and you can do this multiple times a day, be in the moment and practice of asking the question at this moment in time.
"Do I feel connected to myself? Or do I feel disconnected?" And if the answer is "I feel disconnected". Then you question "Why am I feeling disconnected now"? "What is going on around me and within me that's making me feel disconnected"?. Write that down. Make some notes about that. We know how good journaling is for sorting out, filing, clearing the thoughts of the mind. It's very supportive to help you to become connected back to yourself.
Write down why it is that you're feeling what you're feeling. And then ask the question, "Actually what would be the most aligned and connected, thought aligned and connected behaviour that I can attune myself to at this moment in time"? "What works for me?" And then acknowledge that by taking action on that. Being connected, being aligned to your truth is a practice, is not something that you can just pick up off the shelf and learn and boom, you're done. "That's it, I'm constantly in alignment". But it is the difference between that and you fighting against your true nature with things that probably aren't yours, external experiences, external people, external belief systems.
So it's really, really important to come back to your true nature, which is basically the equivalent of connection, you will then begin to trust yourself more, which means that you'll begin to feel less lost. But when you work on yourself, and you move through that spiritual path, go through your journey. Sometimes there are points in time when you don't need to know anything. When you're in this kind of integration period. I see this a lot with clients, you know, we'll do some work on something that's quite integral to needing to be shifted in order for them to make progress with something, to get clarity on something, to overcome something, and the big shift happens, and then it's really quiet.
And it can be human nature to want to quickly find the next thing, "oh, I've done this, now, I've worked towards this point in time, you know, what's next? Let's just come back to careers. And, you know, setting up your own businesses and that kind of thing. It's like, "okay, I've done that step, now, what's next?" Well, maybe maybe there are periods of integration time, when you don't need to do anything, all you need to do is just be present and enjoy the experience. Rather than needing to jump on ahead or needing to find something else.
But if that is the case, there is something in your field that's disallowing you from the beauty and the joy of being present in that moment. And the requirement to be in that space. To take a breath to slow down, to slow down the nervous system, relax into it, be present with it. It is just as valuable as it is 'the doing'. In fact, it is probably more valuable to be present and still and create room than it is to, you know, race on ahead. Doing what you would automatically do.
All of this comes down to you getting to know yourself better, and not relying on the knowledge of who you are to come from an external source. That thing there that's going on? So I'm just like that, so that must be me, I must now do that too. No, nobody on earth is you. You are you, nobody can take you, be you. The job of being you is your job and your job only. So get to know 'you' much more intimately and all parts of you.
True Love, unconditional love, acceptance for you. All parts. All aspects is the way to forge a greater connection with yourself. Beautiful question. I love that question, it's something that we are all working on. And yeah, some days aren't easy. Some days are really easy. Some days flow, some days don't flow, and it is all perfect exactly as it is. We can make leaps and bounds and growth really quickly and sometimes we are not meant to be growing, doing anything, moving, excelling, accelerating. The greatest gift you have for yourself is to get to know yourself and accept all parts of your being. That is true connection.
If you're finding that you need more clarity on that, if you're finding that you would love to experience progress, want a solution to whatever you're currently moving through in terms of feeling disconnected and lost, then do do reach out. And I would love to support you. So anyway, thank you so much for those questions.
Once again, those beautiful souls who asked those questions, thank you, it was a pleasure to share, or at least touch and scratch the surface of each of those topics, because they are literally, I could spend hours talking about each one. Anyway, we kind of forget, as I was kind of talking about, we have experienced so much each and every one of us as individuals, you have so much knowledge and wisdom and skills to support yourself with and share with the world for their support, you know, so that they can grow and enjoy their life. And yeah, evolve.
So thank you for listening this week. And I will be back with you next week for another episode. And then I'm going to take a little bit of a holiday and have a rest because there's a lot going on behind the scenes here, particularly with Sieveille. And eventually, I'm not sure when it's going to arrive, it's literally in insemination phase. It's like building and growing and developing. But there will be an introduction and awakening to Sieveille frequencies that I will be offering to journey with you, for I don't know, it might be four or five or six weeks long, I got some kind of idea of how it will present itself. But it will be a journey with these beautiful frequencies so that you can progress your physical with you on a soul level I guess, and align your physical human self with your soul to the greatest degree that you ever have in this incarnation.
So it's pretty, pretty, pretty exciting.
Anyway, have a beautiful week. Please send me a note. Let me know what you received from this episode this week. If you've got any other questions do please share them with me and and I'll do my best to answer and I will see you again soon. Take good care of yourself wherever you are in the world. And I will see you next week. Take care.
